I'm really struggling and could use some advice. My dog, Max, who has been my best friend for over 12 years, has been diagnosed with a serious illness. The vet gave me the heart-wrenching news that he may not have much longer, but there are treatments that could potentially give him a few more months with us. I'm torn because, on one hand, I don't want to prolong his suffering, but on the other hand, I'm not ready to say goodbye. He still has days where he seems perfectly happy, enjoying his walks and wagging his tail like always. But then there are days where he’s clearly in discomfort and it breaks my heart. Part of me wonders if I'm being selfish wanting these extra months with him, but the thought of letting him go now feels impossible. Has anyone else been through something similar? How did you make the decision? Any insight would be appreciated.
Hi there,
First, let me say that this is a really tough decision and it’s completely normal to feel conflicted. The fact that you're even considering what's best for your dog shows how much you care. Making this decision involves thinking about your pet's quality of life.
Ask yourself a few questions: Is your dog still enjoying daily activities? Can they eat, drink, and move around comfortably? If your dog seems to have more good days than bad, it might be okay to keep them around, giving them the best care you can manage at home. However, if they're consistently in pain or distress, it might be time to consider saying goodbye.
Some signs that your pet might be suffering include noticeable changes in behavior, difficulty breathing, pain that can't be managed, and a significant loss of appetite. If any of these are present, it's crucial to consult a vet.
You might try to keep your dog's environment calm and comfortable. Slippery-free mats, easy access to water, and a cozy bed can help them feel better. Still, deciding what to do next can be difficult, so it’s important to speak with a professional who can guide you through the process.
I recommend booking a video consult with one of our experienced vets on Dial A Vet. They can help assess your dog’s condition and guide you in making the best choice.
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