I really need some advice. I've got this situation with a neighborhood cat, and it's been tearing me up inside. About two months ago, this adorable tabby started visiting my backyard almost daily, and she looks like she might be a stray. I initially started feeding her because she seemed skinny and was super friendly — I mean, she'd rub up against my legs and purr like a lawn mower! But now she's showing up all the time, and I can't help but worry I might be encouraging her to lose whatever “home” she might have. On the other hand, she doesn’t wear a collar and no one’s responded to my flyers. My heart's telling me to just adopt her, but my brain says that might not be fair if someone out there is missing her. Should I stop feeding her to see if she goes away, or does that make me a terrible person? Help!
Hello! It sounds like you've encountered a feline friend that's taken a liking to your hospitality. Cats are resourceful creatures, and it's not uncommon for them to seek out extra meals or a little attention, even if they have a home. If the cat seems healthy and uninjured, it’s possible she’s just indulging in some neighborhood exploration.
Firstly, let’s consider a few things. Does she have a collar or any identification tags? This might mean she has an owner and is just visiting. If not, she could be a stray or lost, and in that case, you’re providing some much-needed care.
Feeding her occasionally is generally fine, but be mindful that consistently feeding her might discourage her from returning home, if she has one. You can also check with local shelters or vets to see if she's microchipped. Meanwhile, offering water is always a safe choice because hydration is crucial.
Watch for signs like lethargy, limping, wounds, or a swollen belly, which could indicate health issues. In these cases, a vet visit is essential to ensure she’s okay.
For a more tailored approach to her situation, I encourage you to book a video consult with Dial A Vet. We can discuss her behavior and welfare in more detail and provide personalized advice.
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