I really need some support right now. Yesterday was one of the hardest days of my life. My sweet cat, Momo, who’d been with me for almost 17 years, had to be put down. She’d been struggling for a while with kidney disease and lately she wasn’t eating, lost a lot of weight, and seemed to be in constant pain. I made the decision with the vet’s guidance, but now that it’s done, I can’t shake this overwhelming guilt. I keep questioning if it was the right time or if I should have waited longer. Did she know I was trying to help her? Was she scared in those last moments? My heart is just aching, and I don’t know how to deal with these emotions. Has anyone else been here? Any advice for dealing with this guilt would be really appreciated.
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, and what you're feeling right now is completely normal. Euthanizing a pet is one of the hardest decisions any pet owner has to make, and it's understandable to feel a range of emotions, including guilt.
Guilt can stem from wondering if you made the decision too soon or if there was more you could've done. Keep in mind that deciding to euthanize a pet is often an act of love meant to prevent further suffering. Try to focus on the wonderful life you gave your cat and the love you shared.
In terms of at-home care for yourself, it might help to create a small memorial or write a letter to your cat expressing how much they meant to you. Sharing your feelings with friends, family, or support groups can also be incredibly comforting.
Watch for signs that this grief is becoming more than you can handle alone, such as prolonged depression, withdrawal from daily activities, or inability to eat or sleep.
If this guilt continues to weigh you down, I encourage you to book a video consult with Dial A Vet. We can talk through your feelings and help you find some peace in this difficult time. Remember, you're not alone in this.
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